{"id":3391,"date":"2025-05-18T07:40:00","date_gmt":"2025-05-18T07:40:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/velkeholky.org\/?p=3391"},"modified":"2025-06-16T13:52:50","modified_gmt":"2025-06-16T13:52:50","slug":"kdo-selhal-my-dnesni-deti-jsou-jen-nasim-obrazem","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/velkeholky.org\/en\/kdo-selhal-my-dnesni-deti-jsou-jen-nasim-obrazem\/","title":{"rendered":"Who failed? Us. Today&#039;s children are just a reflection of us."},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Reflection on the World: Kids Haven\u2019t Changed \u2013 We Have.\nOn lost structure, boundary-free parenting\u2026 and why the chaos starts with us.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading uagb-block-021fefb6\"><h2 class=\"uagb-heading-text\"><strong>Memories of a 50+ woman about the strength that is fading<\/strong><\/h2><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>Oh girls, let\u2019s be honest. Sometimes I look around and feel like I\u2019m living in a completely different movie. I remember a world where men were a support, women were strong, and the world had a clear direction. A world where people knew what was proper, where there were boundaries, and where the word \u201cresponsibility\u201d carried real weight. &nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And then I look at today\u2019s social media\u2026 Boys with painted nails and makeup, caricatures of masculinity drowning in insecurity. Girls pulling from both ends, trying to be perfect mothers, wives, and entrepreneurs \u2013 all while hiding massive exhaustion and burnout underneath. And on top of that, this constant chaos of values, where it feels like nothing is solid or certain anymore. &nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>You might think I\u2019m old-fashioned. But you know what? I have the advantage of remembering a childhood without excessive comfort. A childhood where we worked in the garden, helped around the house, and where a parent\u2019s word carried real weight. And now I see how many young people today can\u2019t handle even the basics. They don\u2019t know how to clean up after themselves, take responsibility for their actions, or endure even the slightest discomfort. &nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And you know what? I\u2019m tired of hearing people say, \u201cKids today are different.\u201d They\u2019re not. They\u2019re simply a reflection of what we, the adults, have stopped expecting. As Frank Martin, head coach of the University of South Carolina basketball team, once said: &nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-pullquote\" style=\"border-width:8px;border-radius:57px\"><blockquote><p>\u201e&quot;\u201e<em>\"You know what makes me sick to my stomach? When I hear grown-ups say that kids have changed. Kids haven\u2019t changed. Kids aren\u2019t to blame. We\u2019ve changed as adults. We demand less from them. We expect less. We make their lives easier instead of preparing them for what life really is. We are the ones who\u2019ve changed.\" &nbsp;<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading uagb-block-2a169968\"><h2 class=\"uagb-heading-text\"><strong>Where did we go wrong?<\/strong><\/h2><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading uagb-block-7b063acf\"><h3 class=\"uagb-heading-text\"><strong>Genetics vs. Upbringing \u2013 What Shapes Character?<\/strong><\/h3><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p><strong>\ud83d\udcca<\/strong><strong> Estimates from research (approximately):<\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li><strong>Genetics:<\/strong> 30\u201360 %<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li><strong>Upbringing and environment:<\/strong> 40\u201370 %<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading uagb-block-94e30ebd\"><h4 class=\"uagb-heading-text\"><em><strong>Genetics is the starting line. Upbringing is the training. Life is the marathon.<\/strong><br><strong>The way children turn out depends mostly on their parents \u2013 and how they raise them!<\/strong><\/em><\/h4><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-uagb-image uagb-block-71241cbe wp-block-uagb-image--layout-default wp-block-uagb-image--effect-static wp-block-uagb-image--align-none\"><figure class=\"wp-block-uagb-image__figure\"><img decoding=\"async\" srcset=\"https:\/\/velkeholky.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/pexels-photo-13014236-13014236-1024x576.jpg ,https:\/\/velkeholky.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/pexels-photo-13014236-13014236-scaled.jpg 780w, https:\/\/velkeholky.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/pexels-photo-13014236-13014236-scaled.jpg 360w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 480px) 150px\" src=\"https:\/\/velkeholky.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/pexels-photo-13014236-13014236-1024x576.jpg\" alt=\"\u201eGenetika je startovn\u00ed \u010d\u00e1ra, v\u00fdchova je tr\u00e9nink.\" class=\"uag-image-3393\" width=\"294\" height=\"164\" title=\"Genetics vs. Upbringing \u2013 What Shapes Character?\" loading=\"lazy\" role=\"img\"\/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>I ask myself: where did it go wrong?\nWhen did we, as a society, start prioritizing comfort over real parenting?\nWhen did we, with good intentions, begin making life easier for our children instead of preparing them for the challenges that life inevitably brings?\nSometimes, it\u2019s even caused by\u2026 <a>excessive care<\/a>!<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I believe that plain exhaustion plays a big role in this. Parents are tired\u2014from work, from societal pressure\u2014so they give in, just to have a moment of peace. But by doing that, they unknowingly undermine their children.\nParenting gives way to comfort, consistency fades, and boundaries disappear\u2014replaced by \u201cpeace and Netflix.\u201d &nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And the result? Children can\u2019t handle frustration. The moment the slightest problem arises, they fall apart.\nYou tell them, \u201cDo it yourself,\u201d and they break down\u2014because they never had the chance to learn independence and responsibility. &nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading uagb-block-f7eea80a\"><h2 class=\"uagb-heading-text\"><strong>Weak Men, Strong Women \u2013 A Lost Balance<\/strong><\/h2><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>And on top of that, the roles of men and women are shifting. Men are getting lost in their own uncertainty, searching for their style in the mirror instead of building character. Women, on the other hand, are forced to handle everything \u2013 family, finances, children, careers \u2013 and still put on a face like everything\u2019s perfectly fine. Where is the balance? Where is the natural strength and support a man should be offering a woman? &nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>And let\u2019s be honest, ladies \u2013 sometimes we do it to ourselves. Sometimes, it\u2019s <a>excessive feminism<\/a>that denies the natural differences between men and women. The constant effort to prove that we\u2019re \u201cthe same\u201d as men ends up hurting us instead of helping. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Yes, feminism has its rightful place in the fight for equal rights and opportunities. But we must understand that we are not the same. A woman is not weaker in the sense of being less capable\u2014she simply has different strengths: empathy, intuition, and emotional insight. A man, on the other hand, brings strength, logical thinking, and a focused drive. And that\u2019s perfectly okay! These differences complement each other and create harmony. The problem begins when we try to deny or erase them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-uagb-image alignleft uagb-block-e098d5df wp-block-uagb-image--layout-default wp-block-uagb-image--effect-static wp-block-uagb-image--align-left\"><figure class=\"wp-block-uagb-image__figure\"><img decoding=\"async\" srcset=\"https:\/\/velkeholky.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/pexels-photo-1682497-1682497-1024x683.jpg ,https:\/\/velkeholky.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/pexels-photo-1682497-1682497-scaled.jpg 780w, https:\/\/velkeholky.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/pexels-photo-1682497-1682497-scaled.jpg 360w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 480px) 150px\" src=\"https:\/\/velkeholky.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/pexels-photo-1682497-1682497-1024x683.jpg\" alt=\"Matky a otcov\u00e9 maj\u00ed obrovskou moc vychovat ze sv\u00fdch d\u011bt\u00ed siln\u00e9 a zodpov\u011bdn\u00e9 jedince.\" class=\"uag-image-3394\" width=\"376\" height=\"251\" title=\"And in all of this, we must not forget the foundation \u2013 family. \" loading=\"lazy\" role=\"img\"\/><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>And in all of this, we must not forget the foundation \u2013 the family. Mothers and fathers have immense power to raise strong and responsible individuals. But the value of family is fading. Parents are exhausted, lacking time and energy for consistent upbringing \u2013 and then they\u2019re surprised by what their children have become.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading uagb-block-8f7fc60a\"><h4 class=\"uagb-heading-text\"><em>Remember \u2013 only a queen can raise a prince!<\/em><\/h4><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading uagb-block-8ca124e2\"><h2 class=\"uagb-heading-text\"><strong>Hard times create strong people.<\/strong><\/h2><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>You might think I'm exaggerating. But just look at history.\nAncient Rome \u2013 the decline of morals and values led to the fall of the empire.\nThe post-war generation \u2013 those hard times shaped strong characters, people who appreciated what they had and weren\u2019t afraid of hard work.\nOur parents \u2013 they experienced scarcity but learned discipline, perseverance, and responsibility.\n\nWhere are these values today? &nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading uagb-block-5b9aa6e8\"><h4 class=\"uagb-heading-text\"><em>\u201cIf the well-being of your children lies close to your heart, let them taste a bit of cold and hunger.\u201d\n\u2013 Chinese proverb<\/em><\/h4><\/div>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading uagb-block-af54754a\"><h3 class=\"uagb-heading-text\">How that translates today.<br><strong>\u201cDo you want your child to be strong? Don\u2019t give them everything. Give them space to earn it.\u201d<\/strong><\/h3><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>This isn\u2019t about cruelty. <strong>This is about raising resilient kids.<\/strong><br>\ud83d\udc49 A bit of cold = understanding that life isn\u2019t always comfortable.<br>\ud83d\udc49 A bit of hunger = learning that you have to work for what you want.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading uagb-block-e40c9e17\"><h2 class=\"uagb-heading-text\"><strong>It\u2019s not about make-up. It\u2019s about inner structure.<\/strong><\/h2><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>It\u2019s not about whether boys paint their nails.\nThat\u2019s just a surface symptom of a much deeper problem.\nThe truth is, many men no longer know what their role is \u2013 who they really are.\nWomen take over the responsibility because they have no other choice.\nBut in the long run, it\u2019s unsustainable.\nAnd children? They just watch the chaos in confusion\u2026 and learn \u2013 well, actually nothing. &nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Are genders really changing \u2013 or is it just identity that\u2019s getting lost?\nI feel like we\u2019re raising a generation of uncertain young people who don\u2019t know who they are or where they belong.\nThey escape into ambiguity, into \u201clabels\u201d and categories, because it\u2019s easier than doing the hard inner work and finding their own path. &nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading uagb-block-f18c6be7\"><h4 class=\"uagb-heading-text\"><em>\ud83d\udc49 <strong>Let\u2019s relearn how to expect more from them \u2013 and believe they can handle it.<\/strong><br>Not for us. For them.<\/em><\/h4><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>Look, kids aren\u2019t the problem \u2013 the real issue lies with the parents who choose convenience over consistent guidance, just to have some \u201cpeace and quiet.\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\">\n<li>Where\u2019s the lesson in cleaning up after themselves, taking responsibility, and handling minor discomforts?<\/li>\n\n\n\n<li>When you say \u201cdo it yourself\u201d and they break down immediately, it\u2019s a clear sign that someone failed to give them the support and structure needed for independence.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>Instead of challenging and guiding their children, many parents give them almost everything\u2014and then wonder why they\u2019re out of control and full of issues in their teenage years.\nHow are they supposed to step into the real world if they never even got the chance to learn how to organize their own life?<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading uagb-block-10b22299\"><h2 class=\"uagb-heading-text\"><strong>Conclusion:<\/strong>:<\/h2><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>Ladies, this isn\u2019t a rant against the younger generation.\nThis is a call to us \u2013 the adults.\nWe must reclaim our responsibility for the future of society and stop tolerating behaviors that lead to emotional meltdowns at an early age. \u00a0<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>We need to give our children not just love and understanding, but also clear boundaries and challenges. And teach them that life isn\u2019t just about comfort, but about effort, discipline, and responsibility. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Most importantly \u2013 we, women, must stop being the only ones holding the line.\nWe have to speak up, say enough, and insist that parenting isn\u2019t about \u201cpeace and quiet\u201d \u2013 it\u2019s about preparing our kids for life. <a href=\"https:\/\/tinyurl.com\/2s4f9ahb\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\" title=\"\">more satisfied and happier<\/a> everyone&#039;s life.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Strong family bonds lead to happier, more fulfilled lives for everyone.\n\nThis isn\u2019t hate.\nThis is a call to return to the solid foundations we can actually build on.\nAnd I believe that we \u2013 the women who haven\u2019t given up, who still remember strength and structure \u2013 can be the force that helps rebuild the world.\n\nBecause as the saying goes: &nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-uagb-advanced-heading uagb-block-888d5e41\"><h3 class=\"uagb-heading-text\">\u201cHard times create strong men.\nStrong men create good times.\nGood times create weak men.\nAnd weak men create hard times.\u201d &nbsp;<\/h3><\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Zamy\u0161len\u00ed nad t\u00edm, pro\u010d dne\u0161n\u00ed d\u011bti nejsou jin\u00e9 \u2013 ale my dosp\u011bl\u00ed ano. Ztratili jsme \u0159\u00e1d, p\u0159ehnali pohodl\u00ed a polevili v n\u00e1roc\u00edch. V\u00fdzva \u017een\u00e1m, kter\u00e9 je\u0161t\u011b nerezignovaly, aby se znovu postavily jako opora sv\u011bta.<\/p>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":3392,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_uag_custom_page_level_css":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[11],"tags":[434,433,45,24,20,432,51],"class_list":["post-3391","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-blog-mimo-tema","tag-feminismus","tag-genetika-vs-vychova","tag-inspirace","tag-mindset","tag-velke-holky","tag-vychova","tag-zeny40plus"],"aioseo_notices":[],"uagb_featured_image_src":{"full":["https:\/\/velkeholky.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/deti.png",1024,1024,false],"thumbnail":["https:\/\/velkeholky.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/deti-150x150.png",150,150,true],"medium":["https:\/\/velkeholky.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/deti-300x300.png",300,300,true],"medium_large":["https:\/\/velkeholky.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/deti-768x768.png",768,768,true],"large":["https:\/\/velkeholky.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/deti.png",960,960,false],"1536x1536":["https:\/\/velkeholky.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/deti.png",1024,1024,false],"2048x2048":["https:\/\/velkeholky.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/deti.png",1024,1024,false],"trp-custom-language-flag":["https:\/\/velkeholky.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/deti.png",12,12,false],"ashe-slider-full-thumbnail":["https:\/\/velkeholky.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/deti-1024x540.png",1024,540,true],"ashe-full-thumbnail":["https:\/\/velkeholky.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/deti.png",1024,1024,false],"ashe-list-thumbnail":["https:\/\/velkeholky.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/deti-300x300.png",300,300,true],"ashe-grid-thumbnail":["https:\/\/velkeholky.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/deti-500x330.png",500,330,true],"ashe-single-navigation":["https:\/\/velkeholky.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/05\/deti-75x75.png",75,75,true]},"uagb_author_info":{"display_name":"S l\u00e1skou Daniela \ud83d\udc9c","author_link":"https:\/\/velkeholky.org\/en\/author\/velkeholkygmail-com\/"},"uagb_comment_info":0,"uagb_excerpt":"Zamy\u0161len\u00ed nad t\u00edm, pro\u010d dne\u0161n\u00ed d\u011bti nejsou jin\u00e9 \u2013 ale my dosp\u011bl\u00ed ano. Ztratili jsme \u0159\u00e1d, p\u0159ehnali pohodl\u00ed a polevili v n\u00e1roc\u00edch. V\u00fdzva \u017een\u00e1m, kter\u00e9 je\u0161t\u011b nerezignovaly, aby se znovu postavily jako opora sv\u011bta.","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/velkeholky.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3391","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/velkeholky.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/velkeholky.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/velkeholky.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/velkeholky.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=3391"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/velkeholky.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3391\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3949,"href":"https:\/\/velkeholky.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3391\/revisions\/3949"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/velkeholky.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/3392"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/velkeholky.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=3391"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/velkeholky.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=3391"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/velkeholky.org\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=3391"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}